Chourtship

What Do You Think About Chourtship?

if your teen will begin to look the opposite sex ? Not easy to answer this question . Some parents say unusual because of their sex hormones begin to form . Moreover , if most kids in high school are now commonplace in pairs , of strange if we were still teenagers alone . Other parents there who fear that anything happened . Love that occurs mostly among teenagers still love monkeys . They are still hard to hold a commitment . Because it 's worth courting process be postponed until at least level two or three in college . The most fundamental question when our children enter adolescence is how to prepare them to face the opposite sex ? How to enable them to say " no " to both the temptation and the friends themselves

Courtship Period Now

We need to understand some of the patterns of today's youth in dating ( of course had some differences with teens 70s ) :

Teenagers are now going out for entertainment only, not to get married . In other words , marriage is not their primary purpose of dating . Not a few parents react negatively to know when his son began dating . There were frantic , confused and angry and banned . We all need to ask and understand the background and rationale of our children . Then we give our views and expectations about them .

They need guidance from parents is that they do the right thing . If we panic reaction and angry, the doors of communication with children might immediately closed . In fact, communication is the key factor that the child can rethink whether it was time for him to date . For this there are two important things that we noticed , that the doors of communication with children continues to run well :

1 . How close our inner relationship with the children . This relationship will give rise to a sense of trust in their parents . Children appreciate the opinion of his father and mother .

2 . Needs of children are met in the house of love . If the child feels unloved , he tends to look for these needs outside the home , among his friends . It would be the danger if it turns out he's got love in the wrong places .

The second reason , teenage dating is trying to show their self-esteem . Children whose self - esteem is less good , trying to find a way to have a boyfriend pride he could be proud of . He wants his friends recognized . If she has a boyfriend and girlfriend beautiful , especially smart then he will feel proud and self-esteem grow .

impact of courtship

For us , going to have positive and negative impacts :

* School Achievement

Courtship can decrease or increase the achievement of our learning . Increasing achievement usually because the spirit of learning , which rose due to a boyfriend who continues to provide encouragement and attention , or because they want to prove to the parents that although our courtship we had not bothered learning achievement .

Achievement of learning may decline if there are problems severe enough to interfere with concentration and passion to learn or prefer to spend time with her boyfriend than learning .

* Social Intercourse

Social interaction with peers and social environment around can be expanded or narrowed . Socially narrow if we spend more time alone , baseball slang again with another friend . The longer we usually become very dependent on our partner or vice versa and have no choice other social interactions .

Relationship with the family was usually become estranged because of more free time is spent with a girlfriend .

* Can stress

Relationship with girlfriend certainly not as smooth as initially suspected because there are differences in the characteristics , background , as well as differences in wants and needs . That caused a lot of problems occur in relationships . Usually it will drain energy and cause stress to the emotions and can interfere with daily life .

* Developing new behaviors

Courtship behavior can mean the emergence of a positive or negative behaviors appear otherwise . Dating can help people develop a positive attitude that is formed when the interaction is positive , while the interaction is of course much less supportive of allowing the formation of negative behavior .

For example , going out with someone who is good photographed . Thus , it is not likely we will catch little stuff . Or going out with people who really care about others and helper , then we could have been ignored previously infected . Similarly, the negative behavior .

Courtship healthy and responsible :

1 . Be open , willing to share their thoughts and feelings in an open, honest , willing to come clean with freshly us on boyfriend 's behavior . Ready to accept criticism and compromise

2 . Receiving it is henna that is guided by feelings of affection . Not demanding something which is beyond his ability .

3 . Adjust to each other . If in this process too often noisy , it is necessary to consider the possibility of separation .

4 . Not involve sexual activity because it can obscure the process get to know and understand each other .

5 . Mutual dependencies , each felt the interdependence of each other . Therefore , we expected and boyfriend were able to complement the deficiency , while the advantages that are expected to cover the lack of a partner.

6 . Mutual respect , mutual respect for each other in an equivalent position .

Conclusion

If neccesary , we can avoid to date now because,there’re more disadvantages than the advantages